With this ring… 10/02/10
Over a year ago I had my wedding and engagement rings re-sized. Not smaller. Bigger. This was kinda devasting to me. I had held out so long thinking and saying and believing ”I’m gonna lose weight and they’ll fit again.” “My hands are just swollen.” It sounds strange but the rings not only held the promise of a lifetime of love and commitment to my husband but also a constant reminder that if the ring fit so did my body. But as the days grew into months and the months into years that the rings didn’t fit, the hope of my body fitting no longer lasted.
So I bit the bullet and had them re-sized bigger. Bigger rings. Bigger me. The thing is my husband did not understand my reluctance to do this. But to me I was giving in to my bigger self. The platinum in the rings sized to fit a new me that I didn’t want to be. To me I wasn’t just re-sizing the rings, I was re-sizing myself. Making something permanent that I wasn’t deep down.
With this ring…
I’ve decided that not only do my rings hold promises of love, commitment and a lifetime of learning. They hold new promises I’ve made to myself and my amazing family. The promise to never settle. The promise to be a better, healthier mom, wife and friend. The promise to inspire, be inspired and reach out. The promise to take time for myself. The promise that nothing can define me except myself.
With this ring…
I’ve gained and lost over 110 pounds over the past 8 years of marriage, two beautiful babies and just life passing by. Over the past fifteen weeks I’ve lost TWENTY pounds and taken back myself and made new promises that I’m not only keeping but writing about and sharing. Promises that include a journey to lose fifty pounds and find myself, get healthy and be the role model I’ve always hoped to be for my children.
With this ring…
I’m consistently losing the weight, incorporating new habits that will last a lifetime and have made some amazing new friends that support me through it all each and every step of the way. WOW, how did I get so lucky?
The day is coming soon that I will NEED to re-size these rings again. Smaller this time. Size doesn’t matter anymore even though I look forward to that day. The difference though this time around is that I know regardless of size these rings are a constant reminder of all the good things in my life. A sparkling reminder that I’m blessed each and every day.
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17 Responses to this article
What a beautiful post! And so true…it doesn’t matter what size they are, only what they mean to you!
HUGS!
Keep up the hard work…it is already proving that it will pay off!
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I just wanted to say… that you’re beautiful!!
You are already a great role model for your children. I was touched by your post.
Trayce I really love this!!
You are an amazing and inspiring woman and I am so blessed to have had our paths cross!
xoxo
What a great post! It is a great way to look at your your ring, I think I am going to do the same! I look forward to reading more….
Great post Trayce! My rings are sliding a bit – but I might just leave them big so I know where I came from…lol.
A great perspective, Trayce! My rings are in storage right now, but when I get them out, I’ll be thinking about them in a new way.
Great post! You will get back to those smaller rings. I love your oppotomistic outlook on where you are going in this journey!
Great way to look at it. I also had to have my rings made bigger after my baby. I too held off thinking the swelling would go down. I did lose the baby weight but I must have lost it in other area because I did give in and had them resized. Keep going! I look forward to reading more!
I know the devastation of how that feels. Instead of getting my ring re-sized, I stopped wearing it. I couldn’t bare the permanent feeling. It’s awful….just reading this post brought tears to my eyes. (It might also be that Aunt Flo is here and she makes me a bit weepy as well
I’m so humbled that you have graced us with your presence…I heart you! All those days are behind us and we are looking up! XXOO
Such an amazing and beautiful post. thank you for sharing such an emotional thing for you. I too am waiting to resize my rings to a smaller size. Much love and best wishes to you.
so proud of you momma. Your time will come to resize them. I have stopped wearing mine. I told Paul where I am where I want to be we will replace my set. For now they sit around my neck when I remember to put them on.
Great post! Feelings that we all go through.
OMG!!! great post! I totally relate to this! My rings first got super tight during my pregnancy so i wore a fake ring so i didnt look knocked up haha. THen 6 months after the baby and my ring still didnt fit so i bite the bullet and had it resized bigger…. you’re right…. so not fun!!! Didnt want to do it, but I had to. Now 3 years later its sooo lose its falling off and I need to resize it again smaller!!!! until i get pregs again though right? ugh. The circle continues
Don’t worry much about the ring. You will be the source and you will be the fulfillment of your promises. Perhaps your ring had gotten smaller for you, but your love had gotten bigger.
Wow, Tracey. This is a very inspiring post. And you are such an inspiration to us. You’ve lost twenty pounds in fifteen weeks! Great job!
I look forward to the post where you’ll share with us that you’ve resized the ring again, only this time, smaller! Way to go! — @ImAHotMom
Hugs to you, Trayce my dear. You are such a beautiful lady – and I’m sure your husband, kids, family, and friends all know it. How could they not? You radiate support, inspiration, and positivity. Thank you.
So sweet Trayce. You wrote something beautiful here. I really hope I don’t have to resize my rings… filagree goes around them and they are vintage. I really don’t want to alter them.